Trials and Tribulations

Posted by on May 19, 2020 in All Posts, Pams Ponderings | 0 comments

Today, Jodi O’Dell of Walk like a Hebrew asked me to share my thoughts on the trials and tribulations that all of us go through. Each of us has had our share of walking around that mountain … several times over. But as we continue this journey of faith, a blanket of comfort can be found in the scriptures.

During my interview with Jodi we talked about various circumstances we have experienced and how hard it is sometimes to keep going forward. On my own journey, there have been many scriptures that have comforted me when the tears flowed, life was in turmoil and it felt there was no end in sight. One of those scriptures dear to my heart is found in James.

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:2-5

These verses really speak to my heart, bringing the ‘holy’ bible characters down from their lofty perches into the ‘real’ world. Each of those set-apart men and women also had various trials, their faith was tested, but enduring whatever life threw at them, produced in them completeness (perfection) in their lives.

Each and every one of us will go through life with scars. Each and every one of us will strive to break those chains of bondage. Each and every one of us will go through trying circumstances; some that we will think are beyond our ability to weather. But…we CAN – with His help! No matter what situation you find yourself in today, your journey matters. YOU matter! When your life seems dark and in despair, search the scriptures and ask the Father to inspire you with ‘your’ verse. He will! Reach out to someone who can hold your hand, dry your tears, lift you up and pray with you. This is a time of growth. His ways are higher than ours and the situation you are experiencing will strengthen and cause you to mature in faith – if you allow it to do so. It’s all in perspective.

So, if you are on a journey that seems filled with trials and tribulations, take heart beloved, and cling to the wisdom of our King! You are on the road to being ‘whole’. It is time to change your perspective and walk with your head held high, you are a child of the Most High King, and He walks with you!

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Why do bad things happen to good people?

Posted by on Apr 25, 2020 in All Posts, Journey thru Garden, Pams Ponderings | 0 comments

I was in a conversation where the topic was why do ‘bad things happen to good people’? And as I pondered that…here were my thoughts:
I wonder if perhaps….what we think is good or bad…is simply our ‘perspective‘ … as one who has gone thru a WHOLE LOT OF HELL (imho) there were times when I stood on the deck w

ith that proverbial ‘towel’ and wanted to throw it in and say ‘Is this what I get for following Torah?’ … and believe me – I’d throw that towel at Him….and then…I would sense that He would catch that ‘towel’ and then a smile would flicker at the corner of his lips….and he would reach back out to me and say – ‘ok…are you finished throwing your tantrum, child? take the towel and wipe your face and let’s start again’….

and I would reach out and take that towel … because I would always realize that I had nowhere else I wanted to be … and that ‘my perspective‘ was not always His….and that what I considered ‘good or bad’ was only in my own perception.
I only had a few pieces of that life journey puzzle…. so what am I saying? Yes, He made promises …. He absolutely did. But we can only scratch the surface of the depth and measure of those promises….and even then, it is colored by the baggage we bring with us and the prism we look through.
So, in the end….it doesn’t really matter if we think what we are going thru is good or bad – what matters is how we walk through those circumstances and cling to our faith that He is in control, no matter what it looks like or how it ends.
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Pray Unceasing

Posted by on Apr 16, 2020 in All About Women, Ezer Kenegdo, Slider | 0 comments

Pray Unceasing

Sometimes…..a picture says a thousand words……

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The Canopy of Heaven Blooms

Posted by on Apr 7, 2020 in All Posts, Journey thru Garden, Pams Ponderings | 0 comments

The Canopy of Heaven Blooms

As I ‘shelter in home’ and ponder on all that has happened in such a short time, I find myself immersed in the never-ending cycle of life. Gazing out the windows of our living room, my heart ‘breathes in’ the beauty of the blossoming canopy of heaven.

With all the unknowns, the heartaches and the disappointments …. a slow but sure smile begins to tug at my heart winding its way up to my lips.  The once bare and forlorn trees have been slowly clothing themselves in their new spring attire and have blossomed into a showcase giving glory to the  miracles of their Creator.  Each and every year the cycle continues. Each and every year the Creator of the Canopy of Heaven blankets its creation with the most expensive and exquisite atire in every color imaginable. Each and every year the Holy One of Israel remembers His Covenant Promises. And for such a time as this, we should also be diligent to seek out and discover anew those beautiful promises He has given to each of us.

The undeniable draw of His beauty beckons to me to come join in its glorious song, and soon I find myself sitting on the patio drinking in the aroma of the flowering pear and cherry trees and soaking in the warmth of the spring breezes. Yes, it is undeniable, but only if one chooses to ‘sit still and listen’. One must quiet the inner turmoil and chaos that seems to follow us around and trouble our daily waters. One must choose life….one must choose blessings.

19 “I call on heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have presented you with life and death, the blessing and the curse. Therefore, choose life, so that you will live, you and your descendants, 20 loving Adonai your God, paying attention to what he says and clinging to him — for that is the purpose of your life! On this depends the length of time you will live in the land Adonai swore he would give to your ancestors Avraham, Yitz’chak and Ya‘akov.” Deuteronomy 30:19-20

So on this day – a day that will never be the same again – a day that will pass by unnoticed – a day that will slide by into nothingness but only IF you do not choose to pay attention. So, please, CHOOSE LIFE!

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Four Thieves Vinegar Recipe

Posted by on Apr 6, 2020 in Natural Affair, Resources | 0 comments

Four Thieves Vinegar Recipe

During this RESET time, while we are all expected to wash, wash, wash our hands and cover our mouth and nose…here is a very effective and potent tincture that will help cleanse the insides and the outsides!

There are many different recipes for Four Thieves Vinegar and different stories claiming different historical origins. That being said, it is a very effective household cleaner. This has been used down south as a banishing vinegar and can be seen in voodoo shops at a pretty penny.

All of the herbs in the Four Thieves Vinegar formula are potent antibacterials or antivirals and all are edible, making it a powerful mix for internal and external use.  If you plan to use this vinegar for cleaning only, you can use white vinegar. If you plan to use it internally as well as for cleaning, cider vinegar (preferably raw, unfiltered with the mother but any cider vinegar will do) is a better choice. This recipe is made assuming you’ll be using either all dried or all fresh herbs. If you will be using some dried and some fresh, adjust the proportions accordingly.


  • apple cider vinegar or white vinegar, enough to cover all your plant material
  • 1 part lavender flowers
  • 1 part sage leaves
  • 1 part rosemary leaves
  • 1 part mugwort aerial parts


  1. Blend your herbs and pour them into a class container such as a wide-mouth canning jar.
  2. Add enough vinegar to cover your blend completely. (If you’re using dried herbs, you may need to add a little extra because the dried herbs will expand as they rehydrate.)
  3. Cover the jar and let the mixture stand at room temperature for six weeks.
  4. After the mixture has finished infusing, strain the herbs out of the vinegar and store the vinegar in an appropriate container.

Storage and Use

Label and store and your Four Thieves Vinegar in a colored glass container to protect it from the deteriorating effects of sunlight. Dilute Four Thieves vinegar with five parts water before using it. You can use it as a spray or a wash for disinfecting surfaces. It’s wonderful for all kinds of house cleaning.

For first aid use, you can use Four Thieves vinegar to disinfect wounds, rashes, and skin in general. Do not put vinegar in your eyes. Just as with household cleaning applications, you will want to dilute it with four parts water before using it externally.

Four Thieves vinegar is edible and can be taken as a “spoonful a day” medicine or added to olive or coconut oil as salad dressing. It’s tasty and provides support to the immune system.

Other herbs you can use as substitutes include:

  • thyme
  • lemon balm

You can also add a handful of garlic cloves or cayenne peppers if you don’t mind their scent.

NOW…if you are not of the mind-set to make your own….you can also just buy it – if you are interested, email me and ask where: ASK PAM

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Another day…. but oh so special!

Posted by on Feb 24, 2020 in All Posts, Our Family | 0 comments

Yep….as so many of you have noticed on FB…today is a rememberance day for me…68 years ago … the Creator of all Life breathed His breath into my lungs and gave me life. My mind reels when I try to ‘look back’ and see all that has happened in this yes, short life. It seems like a nano-second ago when I was playing in the back yard care-free and playing with my beloved little spaniel, Buffy. Feeding the little baby birds in the rafters of our old garage with an eye dropper because they were crying … saving worms from puddles … rescuing hurt animals … I loved my life, and am so thankful to have grown up in a world that was so safe and protected from what our children are exposed to today.
So much has happened…so very much. Time has a way of slipping through your fingers yet at the same time wrapping itself around your life in ways you would never expect. As I reflect this morning on all the events and circumstances in my life, I could very well be desponded and heavy-hearted, but I choose not to be. Instead, I will look back and smile for what was, for those that I have met along the way, for the few that I have truly loved and been blessed by, by those who are still in my life and mean so much to me, and focus on what lies ahead. The lessons I have gleaned from walking through the jungles of life, the memories I carry with me no matter where I lay my head, will light the path ahead as the road unfolds before me.
I am truly, truly blessed….and I thank each and every one of you that have touched my life in whatever purpose the Father brought us together. To my son, Jim….my heart beats for the time we are all together again and can put this episode behind us; to my daughter in law Cheryl, the love I have in my heart for you is simply at a loss for words; to my grand daughters, Hannah, Sierra, Alayna, Meleah, Kylah, Selah, MacKenzie and Peyton….you are my legacy and without you life holds no purpose; to my parents….Ron & Veronica Frierdich…I owe you everything and bless you with all my breath; to my sisters and brothers – Karen, Donna, Ron, Steve and Michelle….you are the anchors in my life…always there, always ready; and to the rest of my large family and all my friends….life would not be complete without each and every one of you! THANK YOU!
Let’s all breathe deeply and have a GREAT DAY together!

ps….just in case you’re so inclined … I am saving for something special
It’s called an Esther Ring and made by my dear friend Moshe from Israel

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It’s all in your perspective…..choose wisely

Posted by on Dec 12, 2019 in All Posts, Hanukkah, Journey thru Garden, Pams Ponderings | 0 comments

Fast approaching … little lights flickering in the window, beckoning those shivering in the winter cold to come inside and warm their bones with a mug of warmness.

So many Feasts of Dedication have come and gone. Memories, smells and sights that warm the soul…and some that, well, just don’t. There has been a lot of changes in the last ten years, and sometimes circumstances just seem to weigh too heavy on the heart to continue going forward. This year is extremely difficult, but I’m sure there are many out there that feel like they have a lump of coal in their stocking ehhh….gelt.

Well…I’ve got my lump of coal in one hand and my candle in the other….which one…which one….which one? It’s all up to me…only me. Which will I choose – life or death, blessings or curses? Seems like a pretty easy question, no? Maybe – maybe not. Just depends on ‘perspective‘.

So, let’s examine that term a bit and see what shakes out.

noun: perspective

1. the art of drawing solid objects on a two-dimensional surface so as to give the right impression of their height, width, depth, and position in relation to each other when viewed from a particular point.

2.a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.

While most of us would choose #2 as the best option – let’s look at #1 for a sec. If you stretch it a bit, that ‘solid object’ could very well be a ‘person’, you or me, as that solid object. Our two-dimensional surface is what most of us live in … past and future … trying to figure out all the details from our point of view. Our canvas of life doesn’t always give the right impression. Many times our view of life is simply warped by time, blurred by tears or smeared with anger, bitterness and frustration.

Then there’s the number two that always fits our definition. It’s simply our attitude about something…it’s ‘our perspective,’ our point of view. And we all have one don’t we? We have an opinion or view on absolutely everything! From whether to wear black or blue, whether fast food is good or bad, whether it is too hot or too cold…well, you get the idea. We’re full of opinions!

Both points are valid – we are who we are and we have been given the power of CHOICE. We simply need to choose wisely.

This year I face many choices – none of which I would have chosen if given choices. But I can, however, choose my perspective. After losing my youngest son, Jason, two years ago and my husband just last December and my oldest still sitting in a prison cell…well, a mother could truly ‘throw in the towel’ and no one would probably blame her. In fact, I know several ladies that are going thru their own private hells and they are in the same frame of mind. On top of the devestating loss, selling all you have and trying to maneuver by yourself to get through the day takes a toll, drains your motivation and wears a body out. What to do? What do you do?

The easiest thing I believe, is to just throw in the towel, give in to the depression and just give up. Yep….that’s the easiest way out. But… BUT … is it the WISEST thing to do? If you have had a difficult year or, like me, many difficult years, easy and wise seem as far apart as the moon is to the earth! But even if you are on the verge of taking the easy way out – it soon doesn’t seem so easy. There are so many things to think about … and then easy isn’t so easy. Again……perspective!

So what does one do when you feel like you are standing at the edge of the cliff…and people keep trying to push you off…or…you want to jump? What do you do???  Well, here’s a choice ~ STOP, DROP and PRAY.

When you’re circumstances are akin to a cesspool, than it’s time to just get real with the Holy One of Israel. Really get real. We were designed with emotions, with sensitivities, with a whole range of ups and downs and it’s silly and downright foolish to ignore or deny that we are complex human beings. It will also eat you alive if you let it. So….again, stop, drop, pray and cry out to God for help. He knows and sees you in all your ups and downs…so you will not surprise him in the least.

And after you have wrestled with your Elohim….take a deep B R E A T H…a very deep breath! In, out….in, out….in, out. Slowly allow your scrambled thoughts to drift down and settle before you so that when the dust clears, and the tears stop flowing ….. you will hear your heart…you will measure your breath…and you will hear the voice of God. You will hear him whisper in your ear and his words will pierce your broken heart and you will be comforted. His arms will be wrapped tightly around your frailness and his breath will fill your lungs. And….yes….then your ‘perspective’ becomes crystal clear ~ you can do it….you can go on one more day. And then another and another and another.  Perspective changes everything!


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Elul – Day 39

Posted by on Oct 7, 2019 in All Posts, Days of Awe, Elul | 0 comments

remember, this is from Orthodoxy….allow the Ruach haKodesh to sift through the words, and speak to your heart…

Tishrei 9, Erev Yom Kippur


Tonight we will begin a 25-hour fast of Yom Kippur.  We don’t do this in order to afflict ourselves, which is the purpose of the fast of Tisha B’Av when we mourn the destruction of the Temple—indeed Yom Kippur is not a day of mourning but a day of joy. We fast on Yom Kippur because on this day we want to transcend our physical limitations and be like angels, and food and other physical concerns distract us from our spiritual selves.

Some people may complain that the hunger distracts them from concentrating on the prayers and rituals of the day.  But this is precisely the Yom Kippur challenge—not to be overly focused on the physical.

Use the opportunity of not eating and not drinking to allow yourself to experience the food and drink that comes from deep within. Fasting will then become a very freeing experience.

Yom Kippur is one day in the year when you can access the deepest part of your soul. But this is only possible if you create the space for it. Your soul—every soul—has a still, soft voice that emits a unique hum. This sound can only be heard if you lower the noise in your life that usually drowns out your inner voice.

On Yom Kippur, when the “source” is nearest to the “spark” of your soul, you want to remove as many material distractions as you can, so that your soul can sing freely and your “spark” can dance.

When you experience Yom Kippur this way—which does take effort, and that’s why you need to prepare for it—then it will be for you not a day when you feel hungry, but a day when you feel angelic.

The same holds true for the other prohibitions of Yom Kippur—against bathing, anointing, marital relations, wearing leather, etc.—all of which are meant to detach us as much as possible from the physical realm so that we can be free to experienced the spiritual one.

Instead of indulging in physical pleasures, we spend the day in the cocoon of a synagogue where we are cut off from the outside world. We spend the day in prayer—our whole intention being to transcend the physical world, our material home, and to travel inward toward our purest spiritual selves—toward our true home in G-d.


Before darkness falls, marking the official beginning of the 10th day of Tishrei which is Yom Kippur, in every synagogue in the world a haunting melody is sang—Kol Nidrei.

Kol Nidrei means “All Vows” and its classic text, repeated three times, each time louder, is a renunciation of all oaths and vows.

It seems strange to begin the holiest day of the yea—the day which we spend asking G-d to forgive us for all transgressions—by breaking former promises.

But Kol Nidrei is not that. Kol Nidrei is the process through which we enter the holiest day of the year.

A neder is not just the vow/promise that you vocalize to another person, it is a word that denotes all commitments, attachments, and ties that bind you.

By renouncing “all vows” you are declaring your commitment to break the bonds that keep you from traveling on the journey within, that keep you from opening yourself to the Yom Kippur experience.

Obviously, this does not mean forsaking healthy commitments and responsibilities—it means forsaking those attachments that limit you, that entangle and entrap you.

That is the essential focus of Kol Nidrei. It is a perfect prayer to begin Yom Kippur with because unless you free yourself from such traps you cannot travel inward; with a ball and chain attached to you, you are not going to be able to get anywhere.

Kol Nidrei is repeated three times to relate to vows in speech, vows in deed, and vows in thought:

All vows and things we have made forbidden on ourselves… we regret having made them, may they all be permitted, forgiven, eradicated, and nullified, and may they not be valid or exist any longer.  Our vows shall no longer be vows, and our prohibitions shall no longer be prohibited, and our oaths are no longer oaths.

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Elul – Day 32

Posted by on Oct 6, 2019 in All Posts, Elul | 0 comments

Tishrei 2, Second Day of Rosh Hashana
The idea of Rosh Hashana as the day when we “coronate” G-d as the King of the Universe, may be one of the strangest and hardest to accept for those of us raised in modern, democratic societies. To us kings are corrupt despots at worst, and characters out of fairy tales at best.

Yet this idea is essential to the observance of Rosh Hashana, because in the language of Judaism a king is a metaphor for absolute authority. On Rosh Hashana we accept upon ourselves G-d as the one and only absolute authority who rules over every aspect of our lives, and we submit to His judgment, which we believe will be merciful because our King is also our Father.

When we accept G-d’s absolute authority over us, we do not annihilate our own individuality. On the contrary, we only empower it. When we acknowledge G-d as our King, we simultaneously recognize the nobility in ourselves—the dignity and majesty of having been created in the Divine image.

This idea fills us with unbridled joy and points up the paradox of Rosh Hashana, because Rosh Hashana is a day when we stand before the Supreme King and tremulously accept the “burden of His sovereignty,” but it is also a festival, which we celebrate amid much feasting and rejoicing.

Such is the nature of a coronation: it is an event that combines trepidation and joy, awe and celebration. For true kingship, as opposed to mere rulership, derives from the willful submission of a people to their sovereign. So the coronation of a king includes a display of reverence and awe on the part of the people, conveying their submission to the king, as well as the joy which affirms that their submission is something they whole-heartedly desire.

The joy and celebration of Rosh Hashana is called v’gilu b’roadah, “celebration wrapped in trembling.”

When we stand before the king, we feel such joy that we want to dance, but we cannot in respect of the king. So the joy must be packaged in a more appropriate expression. Only after we leave the palace (on Sukkot) can we begin celebrating with unbridled expression.

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Elul – Day 37

Posted by on Oct 5, 2019 in All Posts, Days of Awe, Elul | 0 comments

Tishrei 7


Yom Kippur, which is only three days away, is called the “Day of Forgiveness” because this is the day when Moses, after pleading with G-d for 80 days to forgive the Israelites for the Sin of the Golden Calf, finally succeeded.  On this day, G-d finally said to him: “I will forgive as you have asked.”

On Yom Kippur we seek to connect to the energy of this awesome day and win forgiveness for ourselves as well.  But we can hardly expect to be forgiven by G-d if we ourselves have not been willing to forgive others.

Forgiveness is not easy; it requires work. But, most importantly, it requires a connection to G-d, the Giver of Life .

The secret of being able to forgive others is to remember that G-d gave you life because you matter to Him—you have a vital and irreplaceable role to play in the perfection of His world.  When you remember that, you can have the strength to rise above the pain others have caused you and forgive both them and yourself.

The word for “forgiveness” in Hebrew, mechilah, is related to the word machol meaning “circle.” Life is meant to be a circle encompassing all our experiences and relationships in one harmonious, seamless whole. When someone hurts us the circle is broken. Forgiveness is the way we mend the fracture.

Forgiveness means not merely forgiving the person who hurt us, but forgiving ourselves, forgiving G-d, forgiving even life itself with all its bizarre and often cruel twists and turns.

When you forgive, the circle is again complete and you find yourself encompassed by the wholeness of G-d’s creation of which you are an integral part. And then you can have the confidence that this Yom Kippur you will hear G-d saying to you: “I will forgive as you have asked.”
Ask yourself: Whom have you hurt? Who has hurt you?

Exercise for the day:
– Make a list of those whom you must forgive.
– Make a list of those whom you must ask for forgiveness.
– Begin.



Excerpt from 60 Days: A Spiritual Guide to the High Holidays, by Simon Jacobson. ©Copyright The Meaningful Life Center, 2014. All rights reserved.

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