Posted on Sep 10, 2019 | 3 comments

Sometimes you just have to let go!

During Elul we have to look in the mirror and face ourselves. Sometimes it requires us to ‘let go’ of various things. It may be old habits, situations – anything that becomes toxic in your life.

From the “Song of Songs” we get the name—Ani l’dodi, v’dodi li  – “I am for my beloved and my beloved is for me“.  What can we learn from this poignant phrase?

Well, again we see that the initiative begins with the self—“I am.”

The self turns toward “my beloved” .  According to this verse, we don’t exist for ourselves, we exist for our beloved. And what happens when we exist for our beloved, when we care more about our beloved than we do about ourselves? Our beloved ‘is for me‘.  When you let go of yourself in the Hebrew sense it means you are suspending yourself.

What are the benefits of ‘suspending yourself’ or letting go of yourself? When you are able to do that, when you are able to let go, you will have the ability to hear what the other person has to say. When you are able to actually suspend yourself and hear what the person has to say, you then have the ability to love that person for who he is, not who you think he is. The sages say that being able to do this is how we can truly ‘see God‘.  We all want to learn how to let go don’t we? I know I do, but it is something truly difficult for me to do. So many times I find myself listening to respond, rather tan listening to hear. Why is it so hard?

According to Rabbi Jacobson, one reason it is so hard is because we all have a fear of letting go! We may know how to swim but when you’re standing at the deep edge of the pool, thinking about jumping in, the fear of that moment of suspension after we jump, sometimes overpowers our knowledge of our ability to swim! In other words, when we let go of ourselves, the fear of the unknown, the uncertainty of not being in control, overpowers our belief in Yahweh’s complete control of everything.

So how do we get ahold of ourselves and let go? Many times, this is when we need someone we trust to simply … well, push us in! It’s called a mentor. We all need mentors in various areas of our lives.

Ask yourself:  Think about the times where you have not been able to let go of yourself, your ego, your agenda. Think of the times when you were listening to respond, instead of listening to just hear. Is this one of those areas where you need a push in the right direction? Do you have a mentor, someone you can truly trust?

Exercise for the day: Examine your journal that you have been keeping and look for a thread that runs through the habits you’ve listed, the areas in your life that need a mentor to help push you forward. If you don’t have a mentor, pray that the Holy One will open your eyes and heart to someone that will be able to push you in the right direction with love and mercy.

Let Go

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  1. 9-14-2016

    this is very good, I am struggling to let go of it all, people, health situation, my life as it is and all the hopes and dreams that have again blown up in my face….the ex husband that has my beloved dog…please pray for me because this is a very depressing time for me,it has been for a very long time and I am very very tired of it all…trusting that He loves me and has a good plan for me and this stinkin life is a stretch for me right now…shalom

    • 9-14-2016

      Shalom Laura, many are going thru trials and tribulations and the best way to walk it out … is to keep going forward – one step at a time. Think of everything that has happened in your life – and turn it around. Could the firestorms you’ve been through been, perhaps, a test for you? Was there anything during those times that could have prepared you for the next test? Have you become bitter…or better? Remember, only those that have walked through the firestorm and come through on the other side are able to encourage and minister to those going through the same thing. Change your perspective, and you will change your life! ~ Pam

      • 9-15-2016

        thank you for your reply…I appreciate it…yes, I have of late again succumbed to depression…it has been a battle for me since I was little, it is part of the C-PTSD…yes, I worked as a counselor for years and I love to encourage others…right now, I need the encouragement…many are going through severe trials and tribulations and I try to keep my chin up knowing that God is so good and things could be so much worse…bitterness is a human emotion…pretty normal for ppl that go thru abuse and trauma and lose, praying through it is the way to heal from it and move into a better place where He can use it to bless others with encouragement…He is so amazing how He can turn the worse into blessings..Shalom dear one..

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