Posted on Oct 19, 2020 | 2 comments

Genesis 2:20

20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a HELPER fit for him. 21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said

“This at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman,because she was taken out of Man.”

Had to pull this out and dig into it just a little bit more. Why you might ask? Because this is the verse tht is so often used to subjugate the fairer sex, the woman, the gentler side, the one taken out of man. So let’s see what we can find … and then you need to go study it out on your own. First, let’s agree that words mean something (thank you, Brad). And when those words form a NAME – than we better pay attention. So, let’s look at the NAME that the Holy One actually spoke into existence when he designed ‘the woman’. First, what was her name? The Holy One called her ~ EZER K’NEGDO… a helper SUITABLE for man!

Now, let’s examine this word together. What does EZER mean in the Hebrew? Oh my beloved, there is a wealth of information just waiting to be mined in the ‘word’ from the Holy One’s breath upon this first feminine creation, and yes, helpmeet is a really poor translation! The richness in the word ‘ezer kenegdo will take your breath away and knock your socks off when you see the scope and depth in the description of her name! Not only this, it will be so freeing to all of mankind, and we will be one step closer to our goal, the proverbial garden of Eden (and that’s another story!).

First and foremost we must simply realize that we must leave our 21st century understanding, our baggage at the door and see through the eyes of the speaker and the audience. Let’s lay all our own preconceived ideas, our culture, our doctrines and traditions aside and let’s let HIM tell us what HE meant! Every serious student of the bible understands that in order to dig into the meaning of a word in scripture, we must look at the first encounter of that word. By looking at the first encounter of that word, we will see a precedent for understanding the meaning.

Now let’s look first at another verse in Genesis – 1:26-27 for comparison.

And God said, “Let us make Man in our image, after our likeness; and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps upon the earth. So God created Man in His own image, in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them.”

Did you notice that? God himself says that he created MALE AND FEMALE and THEY were to have dominion…..let me repeat that… THEY would have dominion. He did not single out one or the other – so apparently – the two of them were in this deal together! In the beginning, man and woman were on equal footing.

Remember, every word in Hebrew is tied to a description!

So what about the two words ‘male and female‘? What description, what action lies just behind those two words? We won’t go into the depth of this word, but we will touch on both of them. And then, remember, do your own study – you will be amazed! Male in Hebrew is zakar and is listed in the Word 82 times! When you go through those various scriptures it’s no surprise that this word comes from a root

word which means ‘to be sharp, pointed’. The Hebrew name for female in Hebrew is neqevah, which comes from a verb meaning ‘to pierce’. Well, that’s intriguing, don’t you think? Male is to be sharp/pointed and female is to be pierced. Yes, quite interesting! Also, zakar has a word that is spelled exactly the same way in Hebrew (Zayin Kaf Resh) but has a totally different meaning, and that is to ‘remember’!

Hebrew is a verb language…and verbs make up a language of action! So to put that all together could we extrapolate that the ‘male’ is one who is sharp and pointed and needs to remember? Well, then we must ask…remember what, act upon what? Think about some of the more poignant scriptures …. ‘Remember and do’  – comes to mind. Something the Father told the Israelites at Mt. Zion.  So, could we agree that maybe it is man’s responsibility, according to the Father’s description in his name, to remember the God who created him and to act on what God has said? It’s a pampondering thing, but I think if we go through scripture – man is continuously told to remember and obey.

So that brings us back to Ezer K’negdo (or some say ezer kenegdo).  The short story on this wonderfully, deep, rich word that the Father breathed upon this creation is simplly ‘one who complements and one who opposes’. Now, I don’t know about you, beloved, but if you are part of that feminine persuasion, you can really relate to complementing and opposing your mate. Or maybe that’s just me 🙂

Let’s look at that particular verse again when the Holy One said:

“It is not good for man to be alone; I will make for him a helper corresponding to him.” Genesis 2:18 .

Now, let’s look at it in Hebrew: ..lo-tov heyot ha’adam levado e’ese-lo ‘ezer kenegdo.

Now you can look high and low, up and down but that particular word, ‘ezer‘ can only be found in two verses – Genesis 2:18 and verse 20. It is not mentioned in the book of Genesis anywhere else! However, it is mentioned elsewhere but it refers to….wait for it…. >GOD<! How can that be possible? Why would God Himself use the word ‘ezer‘ when describing his female creation and then elsewhere use it for Himself? I can see the bewilderment on your face and hear the scoffing from your mouth.  Let me point out just a few verses and you see what you think:

Exodus 18:4 ~ God delivers (ezer) from the hand of the oppressor. He rescues (ezer) from danger.

Deuteronomy 33:7 ~ God assists, supports and reinforces Israel against her enemies.

Psalm 33:20 ~ God is Israel’s shield, delivering Israel from death and showering Israel with loving-kindness.

So God delivers, assists, supports, reinforces….as an ezer. Interesting? I think so. Bottom line, and without going into the full depth of the meaning of these words, could we attribute the role and action of a woman to reinforce, support, assist, deliver, set boundaries for her husband and her home…. just as much as the male is to remember and do what God says.

If both the husband and wife understood the descriptive meaning of the roles that Abba gave them……and appreciated, respected and listened to each other … well, the gates of hell couldn’t keep them down!

So, hopefully, that’s a lightbulb moment and it will prick you to dig deeper….



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  1. 10-19-2020

    Thank you for your ability to help us to understand more clearly…I lost my husband this last week..actually ten years ago to alzheimers..but with spending day and night at his bedside this past week, he was given clarity, recognized me and through squeezing the hand and nodding, we were able to somehow communicate. We did a simple graveside service that was beautiful per his wishes from many years ago. I have in some ways grieved for ten years but the finality has been more than I expected.

    • 10-21-2020

      Blessings dear Betty …. and yes -the finality of it is so much more than any of us can phathom. It will be two years this coming December 18th and so many ‘things’ pop up and I just stand still and wonder how he could NOT be here! Some of the smallest things bring back the deepest memories. I am considering developing a private page or FB group for others that have lost their spouses way too early. May the Holy One bless you abundantly Betty during this season of your life that you did not ask for….and may He give you strength and wisdom. Please feel free to contact me privately any time …. ~ Pam

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