Posted on Aug 31, 2018 | 1 comment


A very wise friend of mine, Bill Bullock, a teacher and respected leader wrote the following question on FB which I couldn’t help but replying to and speculating on. It came almost immediately after reading a message my son Jim wrote to his children and wife. Here are my thoughts and I pray they encourage you.



From Bill (Rabbi’s Son)

How does a good parent or grandparent teach the children he/she loves to:

[1] know, love, and trust God; [2] enjoy praying; [3] delight in the Sabbath and find meaning in the Holy Days; [4] recognize that the life instructions given by God in the Bible are for their good and their fullest possible enjoyment of life instead of for keeping them from ‘having fun’ the way the world does; and [5] expect and respond appropriately to meaningful encounters with the Heavenly realm.

And, on the other hand, what kinds of statements and behaviors of a parent or grandparent teach the children they love the exact opposite message, and actually inhibit the child’s spiritual development?

My thoughts:

When we do all the above with joy and love and excitement – they will be brought up and be infused with that love and joy. Hopefully, they will continue in the ‘way they should go’. And in the end you an have  sigh of relief, and know you’ve done all you could do with what you knew at the time. However, when you see that they are trying to ‘make their own way’ …. love them thru it, don’t beat them up over it. Show joy and love and excitement even IF they grumble about ‘having fun, wanting to be like everyone else, eyeing the things of the world’ … continue to pray for them, encourage them, love them through it, and they will return . The most important thing…is to pray scripture over them….our Heavenly Father knows them, loves them, and desires them more than we will ever be able to fulfill.
When we can surrender our children fully to our Father, especially when we pray, THAN trust will come that He truly can do what He wants with and through them. In the end, it will all be for His glory! So…it basically is really up to us – do we worry? Or do we Pray. Do we stress out over the situations, the rebellion and the defiance? Or do we trust in Him like we say we do. The choice, truly is, up to us. We can sink into despair and remorse and climb into the pity party, or we can choose LIFE and BLESSINGS and turn around to our OWN Heavenly Father and know that He’s got this! So let’s choose LIFE – choose to rest in Him and BELIEVE that He has it all under control – even when it doesn’t look like it.
My son is 44 TODAY…… and I am still practicing all of the above. Circumstances and situations look, in the natural, horrific. Sometimes, yes, it overwhelms me with what has happened in life – but that is when I have to catch myself and pray … and here is my prayer that is retraining the part of my brain that is focused on parental control:
Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Yeshua” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
Do not let any unwholesome talk (lecturing, judging, or accusing) come of (my) mouth, but only what is helpful for building (my children) up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen” (Eph. 4:29). Let me also be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for (my) anger doesn’t bring about the righteous life that God desires” (James 1:19).

It settles my spirit, lifts my countenance and heals my soul. So take a step back mentally, emotionally and physically from the situation, B R E A T H E deeply, and trust in Him.

Hope this helps you in some way too. If you would like to share what helps you as a parent, please consider sharing.

~ Pam~


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One Comment

  1. 8-31-2018

    I cried,I cry.
    blessings to you as we walk this journey not as we planned.

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