Posted on Jul 12, 2016 | 0 comments

Sometimes, it’s true, I think out loud. That can be a problem sometimes. Many times.  Because when I do that, there is always someone there ‘listening’.  And as my mother used to say – “what you think you say is not what they hear, nor what you think you said, and sometimes not even what you intended to say!” Words so true…words to live by actually. And a smile sneaks across my face….wonder how she knew that?

Probably, truth be told, if we ‘talked out loud‘ less and pondered and meditated on what we think we need to say, we’d talk a lot less! Then on the other hand, most of us listen with the intent to respond, rather than listen with the intent to hear. So there we have it … we talk too much and we listen too little. Wonder how many problems would be solved if we actually could implement eliminating (or at least limiting) those two extremes? mmmm…might be a whole ‘nuther world, don’t you think?

However, it’s an easy thing to say…but in reality difficult to implement in ones’ life. Unless you are already one of those that are slow to speak – than you have no idea what this is all about. But some of us are not built like that- it’s a learning process. And surely that lesson will sink in soon – as later is coming up much too quickly!

Why would some of us be prone to speaking out loud whereas some are not? Well, only thing that makes any sense is that somewhere along the way someone must have paid attention to something we were saying and therefore the impression was formed that what we had to say mattered. And maybe, once or twice that might have been the case, but most people really aren’t interested in what you think or say…they are more interested in having you agree with how they think. Like I said, it’s a learning process.

So after a good ole google, found some interesting quotes on the subject – maybe we could all ponder and meditate together and set a new precedent!

“We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say.” ― Zeno of Citium

“It takes a great man to be a good listener.” ― Calvin Coolidge

“Most of the successful people I’ve known are the ones who do more listening than talking.” ― Bernard M. Baruch

“Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ― Shannon L. Alder

“Part of doing something is listening. We are listening. To the sun. To the stars. To the wind.” ― Madeleine L’Engle, Swiftly Tilting Planet

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.” ― Ralph G. Nichols

“Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion and understanding regardless.” ― Shannon L. Alder

“Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine desire to be with another which both attracts and heals. (attr to J. Isham)” ― Sura Hart, Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation

“It takes two to speak the truth – one to speak and another to hear.” ― Henry David Thoreau

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